Ways to Recognize a Developing Fatal Attraction (for married folks…)

          … You have a need you feel your mate is not meeting – attention, approval, affection – which another person is meeting in your life.

          … You find it easier to unwind and communicate with someone else, rather than your spouse, about the day’s activities over coffee, lunch or during a ride home.

          … Your conversations with the “other” begin to drift toward problems with your spouse or frustrations with your home life.

          … You find yourself explaining the relationship to others.

          … You knowingly minimize the level of this relationship when talking to others, because “they wouldn’t understand”.

          … You look forward with anticipation to spending time together.

          … You hide or misrepresent the relationship to your spouse.

          … You want to explain why any one of these doesn’t apply or shouldn’t be on the list as a danger signal.

What do we have to do?          FLEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!

          Christian writer, Ruth Senter writes about a woman who finds herself in one of these relationships. Although the relationship had not progressed to a sexual affair, she knew that it would eventually happen without a serious re-evaluation. The woman ended her relationship with the married man with a letter that said in part:

          “Friendship is always going somewhere unless it is dead. You and I both know where ours is going. When a relationship threatens the stability of the commitments we’ve made to the people we value the most, it can no longer be.”

Five Firewalls to Protect Your Purity

  1. A healthy view of and relationship with the authorities in your life.

Proverbs 5:1a, 12, 21

 

  1. The ability to hear and willingness to submit to Godly counsel (even if you may not agree).

Proverbs 5:1b, 13, 23a; 6:20-23; Psalm 1

 

  1. Well-defined and even excessively stringent boundaries, not available for compromise.

Proverbs 5:8, 23b; 7:8

 

  1. An open and painfully honest accountability structure (humility quotient).

Proverbs 5:14; 7:9

 

  1. A Biblical and healthy view of relationships and dangers.

Proverbs 5:14